Can you really have it all?
The moment I decided to stop settling for less.
Lately, I’ve been noticing a pattern resurface — the one that quietly whispers,
“You can’t have it all.”
You know the one.
When one part of your life feels incredible — your career, your friendships, your finances — and suddenly, something else starts to crumble.
For me, it’s always my skin.
The Trigger
A few weeks ago, I woke up, looked in the mirror, and felt that familiar pit in my stomach.
My acne was flaring again.
That might sound small, but for me, it’s been the pattern that always finds a way back.
I thought I had healed it — naturally, holistically, without restriction — and I was so damn proud of that.
But here it was again, showing up right as everything else in my life was taking off.
And it hit me.
This is the same cycle I lived through years ago when my business first blew up.
Back then, I didn’t have the tools or self-awareness to hold all that success.
I was proud, yes — but underneath it all, I was terrified.
Terrified I couldn’t keep it all together.
Terrified that if one thing went right, another had to fall apart.
The Belief
I remember someone once saying to me,
“I guess you just can’t have it all.”
At the time, I nodded and said, “Yeah, I guess you’re right.”
But now?
Absolutely not.
I refuse to keep living in that belief.
Because that belief — that you can’t have it all — is a form of protection.
It’s your brain’s way of keeping you safe from expansion, from being too much, from standing in your full power.
But protection isn’t peace.
The Shift
Last week, My psychic sent out an email that mentioned, “Old wounds will reappear.”
And that really made me think. That old wound isn’t here to punish me, it’s here to be rewritten and stand even firmer in myself.
This time, instead of spiraling, I caught it.
I sat in meditation, wrote down what came up, and asked myself,
What if this doesn’t have to be the same story again?
That simple question changed everything.
I’m allowed to have it all.
I’m allowed to have glowing skin, a thriving business, deep love, and financial freedom — all at once.
Because having it all doesn’t mean everything’s going to be perfect.
It means I’m in alignment.
It means I’m no longer waiting for the other shoe to drop.
You’re grounded enough to hold joy and chaos, progress and pause, growth and grace.
The Practice
These days, I’m learning to stop chasing perfect balance because that’s not real life.
Some days, I feel magnetic, clear, and unstoppable.
Other days, I’m tired, in my head, and questioning everything.
Having it all doesn’t mean every day feels easy.
It means you don’t make yourself wrong for the hard days anymore.
It means you can hold your dreams, your struggles, your goals, and your softness — all in the same breath.
So now, when I catch myself slipping into that old story, I shift it gently:
I’m safe to have it all. I’m capable of having it all.
And if this belief is showing up for you, ask yourself:
- If I truly had it all (health, love, money, success, peace) what would that actually look like for me?
- What part of me is scared to receive that much goodness?
- What would change if I stopped assuming something had to go wrong when things go right?
Journal Prompts
✨ If I believed I was allowed to have it all, what would my life start to look like?
✨ What am I currently afraid to receive?
✨ What’s one area of my life that I’ve been making more complicated than it needs to be?
You’re allowed to have it all — not perfectly, but fully.
You just have to stop believing you’re not.
xoxo,
Ash